For the last several weeks, I have been working on a forgiveness project. I have been pushed by Spirit to do this for some time. Why “Forgiveness”? And why now?
I don’t really know. We have always been invited to live a forgiving life. Some of us do, many of us don’t. So, I am wondering what I have left to forgive. You did know that teachers talk about what they need to learn the most. :).
One thing that bothers me about forgiveness, is the space we often are in when we practice forgiveness. Many times, maybe most times, forgiveness is done from our lack or hurt. It is very difficult to forgive from that place.
I would propose that we should come from the space of love. Love is the space for perfect forgiveness. How do you get to “Love” when there can be so much pain involved?
We are adults. As adults we are 100% responsible for our live and experiences. Some experience connections, may seem a little obtuse. In other words, we can’t fathom how we could be part of manifesting an experience, say a car accident. If we are truthful, we can see where we might have contributed to the situation by not paying attention for example. Sometimes we are part of a situation for some greater learning. Sometimes on a soul level we agree to participate for the other person/s to learn some lesson.
First take responsibility for being in a situation. That can be as simple as, “I don’t remember agreeing to this, but here I am. Now I will make the highest choices I can make.” These choices include our emotional state, our thoughts and our actions. Being able to make this decision is a big step.
When you are in a situation where you have experienced some form of “harm”, it can lead you down a very slippery mental/emotional slope. Negative thinking and the sister experience of negative emotions can spring up fast. If you have the propensity to do this, I invite you to stop. Make a choice at least to go into neutral. That would be “non-judgement” thought and neutral or even curious emotions. You will make better choices from neutral than you will from anger, rage, or depression.
Tomorrow I will talk about creating a space of Love within you.
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Blessings, Mary Pat
Mary Pat FitzGibbons RN MS is an energy healer and writes on topics to help people remember their wholeness.